Blogs / Journals - Sex

Update your blog reading lists with selections from the Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy. Hey now, I can see you making assumptions there. I can just tell that you're thinking, "Feminists? They must hate things like porn, nudity, pleasure, and MEN." Think again, dear readers; the writers featured on this site are all about open sexual expression. Among the contributors are sex bloggers, erotica authors, adult performers, sex workers, gender theorists and a whole host of others from incredibly diverse backgrounds. Nevertheless, they all celebrate the vibrant expression of sexuality. Check out their monthly roundups to find brilliant voices discussing a wide range of issues pertaining to sexuality and feminism. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2010-03-07
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex

I wasn't sure for the first few posts exactly what kind of site this was, but after I scrolled through a few more posts, I started to get a better idea. While some pictures (all nude) are taken by the blogger herself, others are sent in by her blog readers (some anonymously and some with names/URLs), and there is now a collection of nude photos, some candid some more professional...almost a post secret of nudity, if you will. I wish there was a little more writing/info to go with each, but I do "get" that the point is people contribute what they will, and I do really like the general concept of this site. All genders, orientations, sizes, etc, all come together to celebrate the beauty of the human body. - EssinEm

Date Reviewed: 2010-03-02
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Category Listings: amateur compilations, Blogs / Journals - Sex

Another sex blogger cum sexuality educator (or is it the other way around) has stepped into the limelight of the interwebs. Raise the curtain; Garnet of AskGarnet has made her grand entrance. Actually, she's been around since 2007, but she's really become more active in the blogosphere in the last few months. With a basic, simple and clean site, it's a bit of a relief in the word of snowflake falling, music playing sex bloggers. The sidebar offers the standard blogroll and affiliate links, but also sexuality resources, and links to sex-positive porn. Content wise, it (like most sex blogs) contains a mix of link lists, sex toy reviews, and thoughtful content. As an added bonus, she also puts forth some sexpert style Q and A, answering (with good information) a few questions put forth to her. I do wish that she would post more often (only 8 posts for all of December), and that there were most posts that weren't reviews. I like her voice and thoughts a lot, and would definitely like to read more. - EssinEm

Date Reviewed: 2010-02-10
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Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - Sex

The Decauched Domestic Diva, or Diva as she is fondly know in the blogosphere, as been around the online world for over two years, and we're just now getting around to reviewing her site. Sadly, she only posts a few times a month (4 in December, 8 in November, etc), but that's just because she's busy with Sex Worker Awareness, producing the sex blogger calendar and working with/for Carnal Nation. The post she does put up are about 50% news/links lists/events, with the other half being her thoughts, rants, and perfectly outspoken viewpoints. The site itself is easy to navigate, although I wish there was a list of categories. Another wish would be for an "about page," but again, the platform of blogger doesn't allow for that. Luckily for us, she's given a little mini-bio in her header. Interesting posts, good information...I just wish there was more of her to read!

Date Reviewed: 2010-02-07
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex

N is the owner of this blog, and she is a self-described "queer femme bottom" burlesque performer in NYC. Her blog is a mix of sextoy reviews that she's done herself, roundups of other blogs, and the occasional entry that is more personal, about dating, sex, etc. I think a brand new reader like me might find it a bit confusing at first as to whether this is just a link roundup, or a blog because the last blog entry about N was back in December, so you have to scroll a bit to start to find the entries that ARE more personal. That said, I did enjoy the toy reviews that N posted, especially the toys that are less talked about, like the "Electrogasm". If you want to check out the real life burlesque shows, link over to hypergender.com for more info. In short, N, I want more of you and less of link roundups! And if I was in NYC, I'd totally come see your show. - Jane

Date Reviewed: 2010-02-07
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex

Sequoia Redd is into sex magic, eco-activism, and is a sex worker of many sorts to boot. What do you get when you combine all those things and a witty mind? Why, Sequoia's blog of course. A combo of naked pictures, political conversations, introspective video, amusing tidbits and deep thoughts make this blog appeal to sex-positive folk, sex worker activists and clients alike. Her writing is as sexy as she is, and she IS sexy. With a natural look that is almost impossible to find today, she is a goddess of the earth with deep thoughts about human rights, equality, and sexual fantasies...all in one place. She posts fairly regularly, so you can get your Sequoia fix on a regular basis. Her site is a great asset to many communities and a worthwhile read.

Date Reviewed: 2010-01-27
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low (banners)
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

This site just went through a major renovation and I've got to say, it looks awesome. Awesome design means little without great content but never fear, you'll find plenty of that on TheBeautifulKind.com. This kinky mom from the St. Louis area writes about her love life, offers up advice to those with sexuality questions and interviews others who are "the beautiful kind." I love the fact that TBK includes points of view from so many others in her work. If she's not personally experienced anal fisting (for example) she'll publish information from someone who has -- and if the chemistry is right, she might even try her hand at the new activity with the person who educated her. You can also ask her advice on the perennial question "Why am I not getting laid," read sex toy and book reviews, and explore "My First" narratives from TBK's readers. If you're in the area you can hire TBK for seminars or private coaching; contact her online if you'd like to employ her from a distance. The Beautiful Kind can be viewed in a work-safe version perfect for on-the-clock surfing. This is a brilliant feature more adult sites should employ. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-12-22
Cost: free Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - Sex

This may very well be the oddest site I've ever seen -- and I've seen a whole lot of odd websites. On AnonymousRealDollOwner.com, Mrs. ARDO writes of her life which includes the company of RealDolls. The RealDolls have their very own blog, wherein they discuss their various goings-on, parties, intrigues and the like. They Dolls comment on each others' entries and (wait for it) they even have their own Twitter accounts, where they all follow each other and talk amongst themselves. There's a section where site users can ask the Doll owner questions; all questions are posted on that page real-time as they are asked, then there is a blog to link to for the answers. Also find photo galleries (chest and upwards only, alas) as well as links to all manner of other RealDoll owner sites. Folks, this is dedication. This is devotion. This is (dare I say it) love. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-12-22
Cost: free Advertising Content: very high
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, Uncategorizable

Once upon a time and a long long time ago, an dude named Sam Sugar started a weekly sex-blog roundup called the Sugasm. Well, originally it was called the Bloggasm, but Mr. Sugar quickly realized that someone else had, alas, beaten him to that fine name. In any case, Sugasm ticked merrily along for 175 episodes, which is unprecedented for a link list of this nature. But then something strange happened. Mr. Sugar went missing. Where is he? No one has even a clue. But a new sex-blog linking mechanism quickly sprang up to fill the void. e[lust] accepts submissions about sexuality on a bi-weekly basis. Participants vote on the most popular pieces, then republish the entire list to their own blogs. This is a wonderful way for bloggers to get their work seen and read by others. It's especially useful for newer authors, who can get to know the e[lust] crew and gain some much-needed linkage from everyone else. As if that wasn't enough awesomeness, e[lust] is totally free and anyone who writes about sex can join. Check out submission guidelines, a brief FAQ and a contact form on the site; read through some of the past round-ups; then toss your own entry into the ring. To the creators of e[lust], thank you for carrying on and even improving the legacy of Sam Sugar. Where ever he is, I'm sure he'd be proud. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-12-22
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, Links Lists

Take a moment and imagine a leather Facebook or Myspace, and then imagine it being run by and for kinky folks. That is exactly what Fetlife is! It is the coolest new community site out there for pervs, and it is absolutely 100% free. I had been hearing the buzz about this new spot on the web from a few of my lifestyle friends, and I finally decided to go set up an account and take a look myself. Many years ago I had been on other sites that promised community and allowed free communication, but since those sites have sold to other companies their soul has left the building and communication costs money. It is also communication that is no longer under the nurturing ownership of perverts with a personal interest in our tribe. I'd lost interest, and so had most of my friends. I was hoping that this site could be some of what I was missing on the old ones. Wow, I wasn't disappointed! I immediately ran into some of my old friends, and then ran off to recruit new ones. It is easy to sign up. Once you have, then you set up a profile. You can add pics to it, and you'll never run into that "you have to have such and such membership" to view pics or show them to others. There are social groups here with ongoing forum conversations, so you can sign up for topics that interest you (or create your own groups). There is a mail system that acts like a personal bulletin board for private conversations, so you don't lose track of what has been said to anyone. You can post writing, see what your friends are doing, and a lot more. A lot of talented pervs are posting writing and engaging in conversation here. I've met a lot of new friends. There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way. You can write to the folks that run the site, and they will actually write you back. I've been in love with this place and raving about it for the last several weeks. This is one of the few sites that didn't ask for review. I sought out the owner and asked him if I could post one. It is that good. I feel like I'm giving you guys an early Christmas gift. Go check it out! This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will stay huge as long as they keep the spirit that they have now. - Vamp » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2009-11-05
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, GBLT Resources, Personal Ads, Sexuality Info, Uncategorizable

The Clothes That Got Me Laid is a blog powered by readers' submissions detailing their sexual exploits and -- most importantly -- the outfits responsible for encouraging those exploits. Since the tales are from a wide range of people, there's a wide range of voices and levels of story-telling expertise. You'll also find lots and lots of pictures of the clothes in question. I'm not much of a fashionista, but someone really into garments would no doubt enjoy the visuals. My only criticism of the site is that it's so hard for my old eyes not to bug out when reading tiny white (or orange) text on a black background. I know, I know...black is classy and sexy. But unfortunately it's not too kind on the peepers. Follow along on their Facebook page or submit your own story if you'd like. You're responsible for the getting laid part. Hasn't been updated in awhile, but what's there is still a fun read. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-10-09
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex

"My body is wired for more," says adult performer and BDSM model Miss Maggie Mayhem, and everything she writes about on her blog bears out that statement. She posts frequent updates detailing her work in the business, including shoots for sites such as Kink.com and HedonisticDiscipline.com. Her posts are illustrated with lots of samples from her work; these are super-hot. Miss Maggie also speaks out for sex worker rights, HIV testing and prevention, and sex-positive feminism. I love learning more about the folks I've seen naked and coming in porn. Keep up the writing, Miss Maggie Mayhem, and we'll keep reading. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-30
Cost: free Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, Female Bondage, Sex Work Info

This blog is a recent addition to the net. I know very little about her but she intrigues me. She has been married for over 20 years and has a couple of kids. She works [or has worked] as a domestic abuse counselor. She - as have I - helps those who have been broken by harmful sexual encounters. She believes - as do I: "The solution to bad art is not censorship, its better art. Well for me, the solution to bad sex and the pain it brings is not abstinence, it is better sex." In her anonymous journal here she both recounts the sex that she seeks with her husband but also the roughcut encounters she fantasizes about with others. - Peter

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-26
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Nil
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex

Do you like podcasts, audioerotica, and sensual bisexual women? Then, you'll love this blog! It is a combination blog/podcast that updates about three times a month. The owner is a woman named "Silkenvoice", and she shares small sections of her written erotica and audio records for free! (Her larger and more complete audio recordings are sold at another location.) When I visited, there were at least 27 sexy and explicit podcasts for free download. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-10
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, Internet Radio Podcasts, mainstream erotica

It is pretty rare that I contact a site and ask to do a review, but this one just charmed the pants off of me! The site is fairly new, but the content is unique and real. In the words of the site owner, "Modern Hooker is a sex worker, sex worker rights activist, blogger, writer, cheap thrill seeker, and random comic." You'll find the web comic in the "smirk" section, and if you've ever worked in the sex industry I think it will give you some pretty big laughs. The real meat of the site is found in the new blog section, however. Modern Hooker has a very charismatic and whimsical style, but she also has a lot of powerful and insightful things to say. I was particularly interested in some of her observations regarding the recent influx of young women into the prostitution industry. Witty, lovable, sexy, and one of a kind. I think you'll love this woman! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-03
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, Humor / Satire / Silly, Sex Work Info

This particular blog hasn't been up and running for that long (since December 2008), but the content that is available is of good quality, and is quite interesting. The author,"LipstickLez," alternates with personal stories, weekly eye candy of queer celebs, and interesting news regarding the queer and lesbian communities. Overall, the posts are pretty short (sometimes too short!), making me wish she wrote a little more on each subject, although some of her definiton posts are wonderfully detailed. As far as function, I was a little frustrated with the choice to only have one post per page - I prefer to have five or ten to a page, so that I can scroll through and read. However, it's a very clean looking site, which I appreciate. She's got a quick and dirty "about" page, ways to contact her, and only one banner, with no advertisements, making her site fairly easy to navigate. I hadn't come across this particular lipstick lesbian before, and I'm excited to follow her as she continues her journey on this blog.

Date Reviewed: 2009-05-30
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Banners
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex

This blog is a really interesting mix of things. The writer is a young woman who fearlessly discusses some really touchy subjects (including polycystic ovarian syndrome, infertility, miscarriage, and marriage issues). She also puts together helpful little video reviews of sex toys for several online retailers. The reviews allow you to see the toy in action (although not in use), which helps to point out issues with noise and such in a much more concrete way. I love that! In addition to all this, the writer is also a former web Domme. She has a small section of the site that she devotes to describing that experience, and I find it fascinating. It is an authentic and unusual mixture of subject matter, and I find that to be refreshing. None of us are one dimensional beings! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2009-05-29
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

Amber has been running her site, Scarlet's Letter (not to be confused with the much longer-running, but no longer updated, webzine "ScarletLetters.com"), since December 2007. She averages around one update a week. The updates are usually fairly short; she generally either talks about a company that she likes or reviews a sex toy. As sex blogs go this one is relatively hum-drum; there are too many other sites out there that either post more comprehensive reviews or that flesh out their content with writing that isn't just about companies and toys. Don't get me wrong, it's a cute site and Amber seems nice, but there just isn't enough there to really make this site shine. - Shay

Date Reviewed: 2009-05-06
Cost: free Advertising Content: high
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex

If you've got a thing for vampires' frightening charms, you've got to check out The Dark Angel: Erotica in a Jugular Vein. Devalia Quintessa is a Second Life player who records her sexy sanguine adventures in vivid detail. Get past the obligatory Blogger warning that it's an adult blog and inside you'll find very long accounts of Quintessa's midnight comings and goings. Right now there are only a handful of entries but each is as extensive as a month's worth of entries on many other sex blogs. Time will tell if this newish blog can keep up the pace of dark fantasies. Enjoy, but keep your neck covered. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-04-01
Cost: free Advertising Content: nil
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex

I've seen a few sex blogs using this layout on Wordpress and I have to say that I'm not really a fan - it kinda makes the posts seem to bleed together a little bit and makes commenting a pain, since you have to scroll back up the top to click the comment button after you've read to the bottom on an entry. Layout aside, The Naked Truth is Z's third blogging effort and it seems like she's getting the hang of it - updating at least around once a week. I'm not sure where she is keeping the rest of her archives, but the current site only goes back as far as Jan 2009. Z blogs about all aspects of her life, from her thoughts on sex toy design, to recounting snippets of her sex life, thoughts on being the other woman, or just talking about how much she hates having to wake up early. An interesting read. - Shay

Date Reviewed: 2009-04-01
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex