Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

Take a moment and imagine a leather Facebook or Myspace, and then imagine it being run by and for kinky folks. That is exactly what Fetlife is! It is the coolest new community site out there for pervs, and it is absolutely 100% free. I had been hearing the buzz about this new spot on the web from a few of my lifestyle friends, and I finally decided to go set up an account and take a look myself. Many years ago I had been on other sites that promised community and allowed free communication, but since those sites have sold to other companies their soul has left the building and communication costs money. It is also communication that is no longer under the nurturing ownership of perverts with a personal interest in our tribe. I'd lost interest, and so had most of my friends. I was hoping that this site could be some of what I was missing on the old ones. Wow, I wasn't disappointed! I immediately ran into some of my old friends, and then ran off to recruit new ones. It is easy to sign up. Once you have, then you set up a profile. You can add pics to it, and you'll never run into that "you have to have such and such membership" to view pics or show them to others. There are social groups here with ongoing forum conversations, so you can sign up for topics that interest you (or create your own groups). There is a mail system that acts like a personal bulletin board for private conversations, so you don't lose track of what has been said to anyone. You can post writing, see what your friends are doing, and a lot more. A lot of talented pervs are posting writing and engaging in conversation here. I've met a lot of new friends. There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way. You can write to the folks that run the site, and they will actually write you back. I've been in love with this place and raving about it for the last several weeks. This is one of the few sites that didn't ask for review. I sought out the owner and asked him if I could post one. It is that good. I feel like I'm giving you guys an early Christmas gift. Go check it out! This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will stay huge as long as they keep the spirit that they have now. - Vamp » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2009-11-05
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, GBLT Resources, Personal Ads, Sexuality Info, Uncategorizable

Mystress Lady Evyl is a Montreal-based blogger and Domme who offers a multitude of services through her website. First read thoughts on sex work in her blog. Next, move on to peruse her offered services, rates and requirement for her subs. Also check out links to fetish shopping sites, Mystress Lady Evyl's own sex toy store and a small but attractive gallery of personal photos. She participates in a unique form of marking called "cell popping;" check out her detailed description of the process, including fascinating photos. Some of the site is written in French, which was difficult for this non-French speaking girl to follow. An easy-to-find block quote or italicized paragraph might be a better way of handling translated text on a blog that's mostly written in English. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-18
Cost: free Advertising Content: high
Category Listings: BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Female Bondage

Vamp first reviewed this site six years ago, and since then it's only gotten better. This has to be one of the coolest BDSM toy shops I've visited in awhile! Madame Giggles sells a huge assortment of floggers, stingers and her absolutely unique "Killer Bunnies." Instead of dull turn-key operations with purchased graphics and boring cookie-cutter toys, Madame Giggles creates all of her own products and images. Each toy has a precise description, including measurements and weights. The toys come with a warranty, and all customer service information is spelled out in detail. In fact, Madame Giggles manages to make you WANT to read all that info because she is funny and smart -- and it shows. Custom work is available. Shipping is currently through USPS Priority mail. Rates seem quite reasonable; spend over $100 and shipping is free. Aside from the toys, there is a personal side to this website. Madame Giggles talks a bit about herself, how to brand skin, and her thoughts on dating and relationship. It is very well worth the read. I found myself wanting to hang out with Madame Giggles after reading this. Other sex toy retailers need to take lessons from Madame Giggles on how to make their sites personally appealing. --Vamp and aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-16
Cost: free Advertising Content: none
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

You know you're in for a witty treat of a writer when there is a line that involves the term "Jacks-off Pollock." It only gets better from there. Mollena is the Perverted Negress, and her blog is a delightful mix of news, the occasional review of a sex toy/sexuality item, pictures of her lovely self, and thoughts about sex, BDSM, and more. Also on her site are a great blogroll, a biography, an attention whoring alert level key, and a way to contact her. Updated almost daily, this site seems to be filled with much amusement, deep thoughts, wit, and sexy pictures; everything you'd want and expect from a kinky sex blog. - EssinEm

Date Reviewed: 2009-01-29
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive

This blog is written by a switchy married woman who is actively and creatively exploring her sexuality. These explorations include kink, and she is not shy about sharing both her actual experiences and her fantasies. There are quite a few images throughout the blog, some of which show things like rope bondage and leather clothing. Her writing is frank and honest, "When you are in love with another man, you share some of your fantasies, keeping others secret, and you never, ever call out the other man's name during sex." This quote gets even better when you read the post that this is a part of, since she decided to break the rules and talk about the other partner while in bed with her husband. That brings me to another great thing about this blog, it links to her husband's writing! So, it is possible to get to know the couple separately through their unique perspectives. In addition to this, you'll find a lot of sex toy and product reviews in this blog. I really thought that was great! A helpful, entertaining, and thought provoking read! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-11-06
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex

Every once in awhile I find myself wondering how in the heck I've managed not to do a review of a site yet. I know the answer, the list of sites we've got to review is pretty huge. Still, I'm sorry that it took so long to call attention to this gem! I'm absolutely certain that I've read it before. Nawa*G is husband, Dominant, and Daddy to lil*j. They both are great lovers of the art of Shibari rope bondage, and they take lots of pictures of their work. Best of all, they share those pictures along with he said/she said style posts that really help to take the reader inside their dynamic. I love that! There are almost three years worth of posts to look over, and it is a real delight to observe their experiences over time. I highly recommend this to anyone who enjoys Shibari, dominance, and the special Daddy/girl bond. Inspiring! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-10-08
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Female Bondage

What a great blog! I often seem to read material by female submissives, but it is rare to find a genuine blog by a lifestyle dominant. So, it was with great interest that I devoured the offerings of Lady Lubyanka. She is a 41 year old musician who is bisexual, poly, Jewish, and funny as all get out. She discusses her thoughts about everything from caning to corsets, and really seems to have a knack for reviewing products. She also has a great informational section that explains prostate milking. All of her writing has a very intellectual and whimsical tone, and it is great to feel both entertained and informed. An example of a product review is her comment about a specific dildo she had purchased for her harness, "...[E]ven the most olfactorily oblivious person would be able to taste the airborne rubber fumes from this cock, just from breathing in the same room as it. The smell was more insistent and persistent than door-to-door religion pushers." Fun, informative, charming, and sexy! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-10-08
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, D / S, Female Domination, Sexuality Info

This blog is written by Simon and Ava, a couple that enjoys writing explicit stories about their sex life and fantasies. Most of the entries seem to be written by Ava, and they are definitely graphic. An example of her writing would be, "Giving my mouth a rest for a moment he stays perched above my face, lowering his balls into my mouth again as he works his cock. I feel his balls tighten in my mouth before he lifts his hips and moves just enough to shoot his cum across my mouth and neck." If you like erotica based in reality, you'll enjoy these folks! They have a lot of vanilla adventures, but there is plenty of kink stuff to keep you on your toes. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-09-24
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex

I am not sure why, but it is rare to get to read sex blogs from men that really discuss their own emotional and physical experiences in-depth. It is a shame, because I know that they have so much to say about sensuality! I was jaded when I saw this blog, expecting it to be full of some puerile commentary on porn pictures (as I've become unhappily accustomed to). Instead, I found this glorious diamond amongst the rough. Rogue seems to be a man of real flesh, blood, and feeling. As I read his entries I felt moved by his longing, desire, confusion, and a whole host of other emotions. He is a deeply sensual man who effortlessly seems to discuss sexuality in a way that is truly hot and genuine. He has a heart, but he has a lot of frank lust as well. One moment I felt taken in by his romantic side, and the next I felt forced against the wall and taken by his gritty nature. All in all, I was seduced by this blog. I think that you might find yourself equally hypnotized. Lovely, hot, and interesting! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-09-09
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - Sex

You might be wondering why a relatively new site (just 3 months old) is already creating such a buzz around the internets. It might have something to do with the fact that the contributors to this group include some pretty heavy hitters of the sexblogging world. So what happens when some of the sexiest writers get together to work on a blog? You end up with an orgy of amazing content: sexy stories, hot images, spicy toy reviews - most anything your naughty little mind could want in a sex blog. And since there are multiple contributors, you are treated to a blog that can offer you multiple updates in a day - your RSS feed will be thrilled when you subscribe(and I know you will too). - Shay

Date Reviewed: 2008-09-09
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Humor / Satire / Silly, mainstream erotica, Sexuality Info

This unique blog features the writing of a woman who considers herself a "sacred whore". She approaches sensuality from many angles, and seems to have a great fascination for fantasy and mythology. She writes, "It's easy to mistake the urge to have sex as sex, rather than engaging totally with the physical reality of sex. Expecting the urge to be enough is a common mistake and then people wonder why sex isn't as good as it is cracked up to be, or rather as good as everyone else says that it should be. In other words, the connection and technique aspects of sex are regarded as secondary, so most sex is a triumph of hope over experience!" An interesting read, with a lot of sacred sexuality and D/s as seasoning. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-08-19
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex

BDSM is really difficult to film, and most of the time SM in the adult industry actually means Stand and Model. People put on the pvc, pull out the toys, and completely miss the energy of actual power and pain relationships. This is a site that manages to deliver something authentic, and sometimes brutal. Catherine de Sade and K offer videos that are rough, gritty, crude, dangerous, and real. In their own words, "...[H]orrible things are done to this woman; physical and emotional abuse, degradation and so much more. All in the name of love." There are a handful of homemade DVDs for sale, and each one lists a run time and has a few sample clips. They also offer clips through clips4sale, and those come with full descriptions. There is a lot of anal sex, bondage, humiliation, odd insertions, large insertions, SM, punching/slapping, and such. There is even a bit of somnophilia (sex with a sleeping person). If you know a bit about BDSM, some of this stuff may make you a bit squeamish. My own safety guidelines are quite different from this couple, so I certainly was at times. (Then again, I'm quite certain that if they could watch me they'd get squeamish as well! Such is the nature of kink.) They are consenting adults who speak to this matter clearly in their blog, "Yes, it's dangerous - get over it." Fair enough! Custom videos and t-shirts are available, and the blog is very interesting to read. A curious mixture of love, lust, and violence. Delicious and frightening. They actually captured something here that is rarely found on film. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-07-31

Category Listings: Amateur / Indie Video / DVD, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Sado-masochism (S/M)

Calico is a fetish model and professional dominatrix who has been chronicling her thoughts on sex and her life in the fetish industry on this blog for a little over a year. Calico writes a great blog, her posts meet all my requirements: her writing is engaging, interesting, fun - heck, she's even grammatically correct. And did I mention that you can view her gorgeous fetish photo portfolio from her site? Calico is a rare gem of a sex blogger - if you're into her particular brand of kink (or are curious about it), you're going to want to bookmark her site. - Shay

Date Reviewed: 2008-05-12
Advertising Content: none
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Sex Work Info

One of my favorite things about reading blogs is that you can peek into the lives of people you'd never otherwise get to know. As wonderful as my little Midwestern town is, it's not the greatest place to make friends with a "kinky queer butch top," which happens to be Sinclair Sexsmith's self-description. Sinclair's writings focus on sex, gender, dating, and the politics of these topics. The posts are open-minded, inclusive and informative, which is exactly what I like when I'm learning about someone whose life experiences are so different from my own. Did I mention the images Mr. Sexsmith posts? They are mighty enticing. There's an erotica contest on at the moment; check it out and vote for your favorite sexy tale. And Sinclair? If you're ever in my town, stop by for a cup of coffee. I'd like to meet you. - AAG

Date Reviewed: 2008-04-30
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - Sex

I couldn't resist taking a look at a blog called Cute but Psycho. The blog is written by Kara, a 24 year old woman from Ohio. She describes her blog as her personal goth/punk/freak and body mod blog and she covers such topics as female dominance, relationships, polyamory, and body modification. I read a lot of angst and drama in her posts and what seems to me to be a real search for meaning in her relationships and her path in life. In addition to her writing, she also has a flickr link to photos of herself and even a web cam. - Wolfe

Date Reviewed: 2008-01-26
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, softcore

EroticChallenge.com currently offers 60 masturbatory challenges that you can either set for yourself or ask (beg?) your favorite Dom to set for you. Eventually the site's creator, AlisonX, plans on writing 1001 challenges, which would keep even the most ardent wanker busy for a nice long time. Challenges range from the mental (think about your favorite fetish object) to the more corporeal (use ice during masturbation). Most challenges are geared toward men but can fairly easily be adapted for women. AlisonX encourages feedback from folks who try out her challenges. She also urges heavy measures of caution and common sense for those who want to play. This is probably very wise, as I tend to question the safety of some of her suggestions. Is it a good idea to leave a rubber band around your family jewels for up to 90 minutes? Would you bathe your cock in vinegar and baking soda? Should compressed air be blown upon your John Thomas? I don't have the answers to these questions, but I would use a whole steaming heap of caution in trying things of this nature. - AAG

Date Reviewed: 2007-12-08
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Uncategorizable

Calico is a 22 year old dominatrix and fetish model based out of New York. Her blog is primarily about dominance, submission, and masochism, particularly in relationship to her work, but she also discusses her personal life. Having worked in both industries myself, I always enjoy reading about what brought people into this particular line of work and how their personal kinks relate to what they do professionally. Her blog also includes a link to her model portfolio and a link to the dungeon she works from for those interested in booking a professional session. I rarely read a blog where I become thoroughly engrossed and lose track of time, but I did here. Calico is cute, engaging, honest, and a damned good read. Highly Recommended - I know I'll be back. - Wolfe

Date Reviewed: 2007-11-16
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Sex Work Info

This blog chronicles the relationship of Devastating and Joscelin, a new couple just discovering their BDSM dynamic. Devastating, usually a submissive, has taken on the role of dominant in her relationship with Joscelin, a man a few years younger than her in body and experience. The blog is well written and surprisingly up front about the ups and downs of their relationship. I really enjoyed seeing the progression in communication between the two of them and how they choose to resolve conflict. - Wolfe

Date Reviewed: 2007-11-01
Cost: n/a Advertising Content: nil
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive

Aunty's review request has been in our pending basket for quite a while and I apologize for the delay in reviewing her blog. She is a significant spanking fan and for the past couple of years has had a blog to promote her fetish. She puts spotlights on both top and bottom, and on all gender mixes. She has recurring features such as "Bottom of the day" or "Spanking machine" [both photographs, and periodically will highlight on-topic themes [pix of a new favorite paddle or cane, for example]. Such things as a series of birthday spanking pix, or wedding spanking pix, or the latest feature on a spanking paysite, or whatever. Mingling with the photos are essays, news articles, and other on-topic content. There is a bit of advertising here, but it is all spanking-related and folks need to pay for their blogs somehow, I suppose. As a spanking fan myself, I wish her well with this. - Peter

Date Reviewed: 2007-09-05
Cost: Free Advertising Content: As above
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Spanking

This is a blog chronicling the long distance Master/slave relationship between Trammels and nisi. Apparently nisi comes from a background that has included some very bad relationships, and she has accepted a contract with a man that describes the situation as "...I live far away and she knows nothing of me but how to make me happy and how to avoid punishment. A complete and total Mastery, taken 100% on faith." There are pictures and discussion by both parties. It appears that her Master has been asking her to find "toys" to play with, so she is currently investigating some of her more dominant feelings. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2007-06-27
Cost: Free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive