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His: 30 Erotic Tales Written Just for Him

by Alison Tyler and Thomas Roche

reviewed by Shay on Sun 1 Mar 2009

HIS:  30 Erotic Tales Written Just for Him is one of the books from the line of erotic story collections from Pretty Things Press.  In this particular collection, the stories are narrated by the main female character in each fantasy – as if she is talking to you (her man) and recounting the hot sex you  just had.

I’m fairly picky with my erotica because I often have trouble identifying with the women, but it turns out that it’s hard to go wrong when you’ve got 30 different stories to choose from! No matter who you are, you’re likely to find more than a few stories in this book that turn your crank.  Some of the stories might turn you on because they’ll be stories about something you’ve tried yourself and liked, some will turn you on because they are about situations that you’ve  fantasied about too, and some will turn you one because they give you a brand new fantasy you can add to your “spank bank”.

Aside from the variety of stories and how nicely this erotica is written, I also liked how short each of the stories are (most are around 6 or 7 pages long); so if you’ve got a short attention span or if one particular story isn’t quite winding you up, you won’t have to go long before you’ve got a new fantasy to dive into.  Each story gives you just enough details about the characters for you to latch on to them, without creating an expansive universe – like a quickie with someone you’ve just met.

HIS is a book of quickies that you can keep in your bedside drawer, with your favourite stories marked for when you need a little inspiration or want to act a few of them out with someone special.

His: 30 Erotic Tales Written Just for Him by Alison Tyler and Thomas Roche
Available at
8.4 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches, 208 pages

The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals

by Stephanie Brill & Rachel Pepper

reviewed by AlwaysArousedGirl on Sun 1 Feb 2009

If you work with children, have children or love children, The Transgender Child:  A Handbook for Families and Professionals by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper should be on your bookshelf next to all the other books about infant and child development.

“But I don’t know any transgender kids,” you might be thinking.  You’d probably be wrong.  The Transgender Child focuses not only on those who will eventually want to make the transition via surgery to the opposite gender but also on children who live with any form of gender variance.  From the little boy who loves to play with dolls to the teenager already living in her preferred gender, this book touches on issues that anyone who is around children will eventually face.

The Transgender Child gives solid advice on mentoring gender-variant children from their earliest years until they are ready to leave the home and beyond.  Compassion rules; Brill and Pepper advocate extensive education so that parents, school staff, physicians and friends are prepared to offer support for the physical and emotional challenges transgender children will face.

So much of their advice seems appropriate even when applied to children who present as straight:  Draw appropriate boundaries.  Get educated.  Become an assertive yet calm advocate when problems arise.  And perhaps most importantly, demonstrate unconditional love no matter what gender or orientation is exhibited.

Brill and Pepper quote one seventeen-year-old transboy as follows:

If I could change one thing, it would be that all people were required to understand that there are more than two categories of gender.  That way other kids won’t have to suffer like I did.

I’d like nothing more than to see this wish come true.  A fine way of achieving this goal would be to grab a copy of The Transgender Child, read it through, then pass it on to someone else who could be an advocate for a child who lives outside of the bindary gender classification.

The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals by Stephanie Brill & Rachel Pepper
Available at
Cleis Press, 2008
8.5 x 5.5 x 0.9 inches
200 pages
$16.95 list

Orgasm Loop: The No-Fail Technique for Reaching Orgasm During Sex

by Susan Crain Bakos

reviewed by AlwaysArousedGirl on Sat 13 Sep 2008

Without any exaggeration at all, I can tell you that the number of times as an adult I’ve had trouble reaching orgasm numbers in the single digits.


Er, sorry to brag.

So it was with just a bit of hesitation that I cracked open The Orgasm Loop: The No-Fail Technique for Reaching Orgasm During Sex by Susan Crain Bakos. I felt like I should pass it off to someone who could get more out of it, you know what I mean?

Susan Crain Bakos, a former columnist for Penthouse Forums, has written about human sexuality for over twenty years. She’s interviewed thousands of people, including over 500 women whose experiences went into the research behind the Orgasm Loop technique.

First, a bit about what you’ll see when you open the book. It’s filled with images of a lovely woman and her hunky partner in all stages of nudity. The positions and techniques illustrated certainly look like sure-fire ways to gettin’ off. We’ve got your vibrator play, your cunnilingus, and your deep doggie-style with a hand on the clit. Gorgeous pictures, and emulating them should be both fun and effective.

Just don’t count on reading this book on the train, or in front of Great Aunt Hazel. The pictures might be just a wee bit too nekkid for that sort of thing.

Men can see arousal in the state of their erections, Crain Bakos points out, and that positive feedback keeps them moving toward greater and greater pleasure. Her aim is to teach women to picture an increasingly turned-on state in our minds, as it is difficult if not impossible in ordinary circumstances to see the effects of arousal in our bodies.

She encourages the use of some of our tried and true favorite toys, such as the Hitachi Magic Wand. By learning these techniques with toys and alone, Crain Bakos says, performance anxiety and the desire to please a partner is removed from the equation, leaving a woman free to concentrate on what’s happening in her own body. Very good advice indeed.

Crain Bakos offers additional advice for women in special situations, such as those using anti-depressant medication. She devotes a chapter to physical changes after the age of 40, and another to women who have chosen a non-partnered status.

Visualizing arousal, incorporating sex toys into your play and enjoying solo sexual exploration? All excellent advise from The Orgasm Loop for those hoping to track down an elusive climactic experience.

Orgasm Loop: The No-Fail Technique for Reaching Orgasm During Sex by Susan Crain Bakos
Available at
9.2 x 7.2 x 0.5 inches, 144 pages

Spanked: Red Cheek Erotica

by Rachel Kramer Bussel, editor

reviewed by AlwaysArousedGirl on Sun 31 Aug 2008

My favorite spankophile was at my house the day Rachel Kramer Bussel’s latest anthology, Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica, arrived in the mail.  She squealed.  She’s read Rachel Kramer Bussel’s anthologies before.

“You can borrow it,” I told her, extending the book toward her hands.  She backed away.  “What’s wrong?” I asked.  “You’ll have plenty of time to read it before I need it back.”

She shook her head.  “If I take that book now, you’ll never get it back.”

“I trust you!  I know you’ll bring it back!”

She laughed.  “Well, yes.  But it would be sticky.”  In the past she and her boyfriend have read these books together, and I do mean together.  In some cases they’re enjoyed story time while actually engaged in intercourse.  Nice trick if you can manage it.

So I held on to the book, and even though spanking is but a passing interest of mine, I thoroughly enjoyed the stories.  I’ve got my favorites now among Bussel’s frequent contributors.  I’ve loved Shanna Germain’s stories in past books; this time, her fiery tale of a bookseller who gives new meaning to the word “bound” got my panties all in a bunch.

By the time I got to Thomas S. Roche’s “Pre-Party,” which focuses on a couple’s sexy preparations for a kink event, I’d dragged my vibrator out from under the bed and applied it to the pertinent bits of my anatomy.

Rachel Kramer Bussel’s “The Depths of Despair” finished out the book; this dark story details a woman’s wish for her lover to push her to (and beyond) her limits.  By this point in my reading I was enjoying both book and vibe quite thoroughly.

And this is exactly what’s expected from collections of naughty tales:  a variety of settings, characters and levels of intensity capable of taking readers right over the edge of erotic pleasure.

Spank-loving friend, are you ready to get the book sticky?  Or *ahem* stickier?

Come on over.  Spanked is all yours.


For more information, check out the Spanked: Red Cheek Erotica Blog and the Spanked trailer.

Spanked: Red Cheek Erotica by Rachel Kramer Bussel, editor
Available at
220 pages, 7.9 x 5.4 x 0.6 inches
Cleis Press, 2008

8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters That Inspire Great Sex for a Lifetime

by Charla Hathaway

reviewed by AlwaysArousedGirl on Sat 23 Aug 2008


Oh sorry, don’t know what came over me there. It’s just that 8 Erotic Nights:  Passionate Encounters That Inspire Great Sex for a Lifetime is full — full, I tell you! — of nekkid titties.

Available at, this book gives complete recipes for a week and a day of sexy, intimate encounters.  And it’s full of nekkid titties.  Or did I mention that before?

Maybe I keep mentioning it because I find it annoying.  We get to see nekkid lady-titties and nekkid ass-cheeks from both genders.  There are even hints of female pubic hair and a picture of one lovely lass wearing nothing but bubbles.  However, the dudes in 8 Erotic Nights keep their Private Spots entirely private.

Not even a boner shows through clothing!  Not even a hint of a bulge!  Did they tape down cocks before photography commenced?  They must have, because in all the images of male/female couples engaged in enticingly sexual play, the men remain as flaccid as if they were in the middle of particularly painful dental exams.

I’m done ranting now.

The book’s author, Charla Hathaway, runs the Texas-based intimacy school BodyJoy.  In sessions designed for men, women and couples, Hathaway teaches the art of creating strong, empowering relationships with self and others.  8 Erotic Nights continues her tradition of mentoring couples in strengthening their erotic connections.

Throughout the book Hathaway stresses the importance of being able to say “yes” and “no” fully.  This is to me one of the most powerful sexual lessons anyone can absorb.  Hathaway points out that when a person cannot say (and mean) “No” when it’s called for, they can never truly give consent either.  She provides steps for practicing the art of saying no; those serious about learning this art may find benefits to responding in the negative in non-sexual situations as well.

Hathaway encourages practice in other intimacy deepening exercises as well, such as extended eye gazing, massage (both genital and full-body) and opening up about hidden desires.  The pictures included in the book might be too titty-centric for my high standards, but they do show couples who look as though they are enjoying amazing connections with their partners.  And who can rant about that?

8 Erotic Nights would make a fitting anniversary gift for a couple wanting to heighten the intimacy of their union.  Throw in reservations to a quiet hotel and a bottle of good massage oil and you’re almost guaranteed a lovely time.

8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters That Inspire Great Sex for a Lifetime by Charla Hathaway
Available from
176 pages, hardcover
9.9 x 8.6 x 0.9 inches

Tantra for Erotic Empowerment: The Key to Enriching Your Sexual Life

by Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

reviewed by AlwaysArousedGirl on Sat 16 Aug 2008

Tantra for Erotic Empowerment starts with a powerful promise:  The practice of Tantra can bring profound benefits both to your sexual life and to your life in general.

Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson, a male/female couple who have studied Tantra together for the past nine years, have conducted online courses in the subject since 2001.  Their success in teaching lead them to publish Tantra for Erotic Empowerment.

Michaels and Johnson point out that most Tantric texts refer to heterosexual relationships between two people.  However, they encourage members of any genders and orientations to adapt the exercises for their own use, and they note that classical Indian erotic art often portrays group and same-sex couplings.

The authors stress that Tantra is not a “set of techniques for better sex.”  Instead, it is an approach that acknowledges the power inherent in sexual energy, a power which can transform a life (or a relationship) if followed.  There is no end goal for the practice of Tantra.  Practitioners don’t aim for bigger orgasms, more pleasure or a greater number of partners. Instead, Tantra serves as a day-to-day practice which over time will bring a deepening of both self-knowledge and the ability to connect with a partner.

Fourteen chapters called dalas (the Sanskrit for petals) form the basis of Michaels’ and Johnson’s book.  Each dala contains information, questions and exercises designed to bring the reader into a deeper knowledge of Tantric practices.  The authors suggest that the dalas should be approached slowly — at least a week per chapter — for the most substantial benefits.

Journaling is strongly encouraged, both for self-knowledge and for a better understanding of future dalas.  Michaels and Johnson provide ample writing prompts and plentiful opportunities to incorporate the writing into your Tantric practice.

The authors encourage both members of a couple to be willing participants in the sexual aspects of tantra study.  However, they note that Tantric study can have great benefits for individuals as well, and when one member of a couple studies alone, there are often results for both partners.

Those looking for a quick fix for their sexual issues or easy advice on how to spice up a relationship will not find what they’re looking for in Tantra for Erotic Empowerment.  Folks interested in a holistic method of reevaluating their spiritual and sexual practices will enjoy the most benefit from this book.

Tantra for Erotic Empowerment: The Key to Enriching Your Sexual Life by Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson
Available at
9 x 7.4 x 0.9 inches
288 pages

Hump: True Tales of Sex After Kids

by Kimberly Ford

reviewed by AlwaysArousedGirl on Mon 4 Aug 2008

I’ve got to tell you, it’s been a shamefully long time since I’ve finished a book in under 36 hours.  It was lovely to be so inspired by Kimberly Ford’s Hump:  True Tales of Sex After Kids that I curled in bed with it two nights in a row.  This should be an indicator both of the interesting subject matter and the ease with which the narration flows.

Ford, the parent of three small children, shares stories of how she and her close friends have managed to stay physically and emotionally connected to their spouses even through the very harshest years of raising children.  While she never claims that couples should force themselves into indulging in scads of sex, she presents compelling evidence to suggest that if both partners are willing, there are multitudes of ways to accomplish intimacy in a household filled with little ones.

To some it might seem revolutionary (if not terrifying) to attempt sex with a child watching teevee one floor down or even napping peacefully in the bed-side bassinet, but Ford’s stance is that if you don’t grasp  opportunities when kids are occupied, you may be exhausted by nightfall.  Kids should learn to respect the closed bedroom door and parents’ alone time, Ford says, and that certainly seems like a worthy goal.

I loved that Hump mentions so many of our favorite toy stores and products.  Ford and her pals are big fans of Babeland and Good Vibrations.  She swears by both the Blueberry Buzz and the Magic Wand, which tickles me to no end because those are two of my most beloved toys.  I feel like if we were ever to sit down?  For some tea?  Or wine?  We’d have plenty to talk about.

My least favorite part of Hump centered around Ford’s insistence on third-person narration even when describing events in her own life.  I think I would have identified much more strongly with her if she’d used the good old  “I” for her own experiences.  Perhaps she was trying to avoid drawing attention to her stories more than the others, but I found it distracting.

Otherwise, Hump delighted me.  Gift it to your favorite expectant couple along with a big package of size 2 diapers and a gift card to a restaurant.  Best pre-baby gift ever.

Hump: True Tales of Sex After Kids by Kimberly Ford
Available at
8.2 x 5.4 x 0.9 inches
2008, 288 pages

Flagrante Delicto

by Will Santillo

reviewed by AlwaysArousedGirl on Sun 27 Jul 2008

Of course I ripped into Flagrante Delicto, available through Santillo Studios, the first second I found myself alone after it was delivered. Do you blame me?  A gorgeous, coffee-table-book sized tome filled with photographic art of naked people?  I couldn’t keep my eyes off it.

I thumbed through it with hands shaking until I got to page 49.  Page 49 left me transfixed.  I turned to the computer and emailed the artist, Will Santillo.  “Is that fisting on page 49?” I asked him.

He wrote back almost instantly.  “It’s dusting with gushing!”

My eyebrows went up.  Dusting?  I’d never heard of a sexual practice called dusting.  I examined page 49 more closely before writing Mr. Santillo back again.  “What’s dusting?” I asked.  He’s going to think I’m a fraud, I worried.  A person writing about sex who doesn’t know what dusting is?  Scandalous!

Within moments, however, the very generous Mr. Santillo assured me that he’d intended to type “fisting,” not dusting, and I relaxed back into my (very hearty) enjoyment of his book.

Santillo worked in the fashion, architecture and computer programming fields before turning his talents to erotic photography.  The images in Flagrante Delicto capture the heat between gorgeous bodies in their most intimate moments…including the aforementioned fisting.

In the book you’ll find intense scenes between couples and groups, both same gender and mixed genders.  Some fairly mild fetish content is shown, including a bit of bondage.  There’s a clear sense of action in Santillo’s work.  The models look less like they are posing for pictures and more like they are carrying on with their naughty selves no matter who might be capturing them on film.

If I had to give one criticism, it would be this:  I wish that more variations in physique had been pictured in Flagrante Delicto.  Show me a big girl gettin’ busy.  Show me a man with a subtle paunch.  Show me someone — anyone! — who doesn’t look like they spend all their non-naked hours walking fashion down the runway.  Next time, maybe?  Please?

Despite this small criticism, I adored Flagrante Delicto.  I’m more than a little tempted to strip off the dust jacket to reveal the book’s sedate black cloth cover.  I’d then leave it out on my coffee table next time my especially stuffy pals stop by.

I think they might just love it.


For more information and sample pages from the book, click here.


Update, 7-31-2008

In an email from the author, he shared this: “…all the sexual encounters were with real people (non-professional models) with real bodies – yes indeed, there are curvy gals in there and portly bellied gentlemen. One of the interesting benifits of my blurry technique is that body shapes tend to merge and blur our the perspectives a bit. And! Everybody volunteered, there were no paid performance sex anywhere in the book, and all the sex was very real indeed!”

Thank you, Mr. Santillo!

Flagrante Delicto by Will Santillo
Available Through Santillo Studios
Hardcover, 12 x 12.75 in., 156 pages, 125 images

TransEntities: The Nasty Love of Papi and Wil

by Morty Diamond, director

reviewed by AlwaysArousedGirl on Wed 9 Jul 2008

Please forgive my language when I say that OH FUCK this film is hot.

New York City-based filmmaker, performance artist and author Morty Diamond directs TransEntities: The Nasty Love of Papì and Wil, available through Babeland.  In nearly an hour of footage filmed in their own home, we get to see the title characters engaged in both intimate discussion and flaming hot sex.

We’ll get to the flaming hot sex in just a moment, but first let’s focus on the discussions.  In a Tony Comstock-esque set-up, Diamond introduces us to Papì and Wil, a committed trans-couple whose relationship defies easy labeling.

Both are female-bodied (they feel no need at the moment for surgery or hormonal assistance) but have identified at various times as male, female, both, neither, and who-really-cares because they love each other so much. They practice elements of bondage, discipline and power exchange.  Their relationship also is open to another partner, a woman named Chris who does not hear.

Their discussions are interspersed between sex scenes and cover everything from their gender fluidity, sexual preferences, race, culture, religion, and the future.  I’d love to see more porn where trans-people — or heck, let’s dream big and say any performers — are shown as more than bodies going through the motions.  I love getting glimpses into why relationships works, what brought the partners together, and how their kinks mesh.

The film consists of three long scenes.  The first focuses only on Papì and Wil, who play hard with erotic hitting, dual strap-ons and a four-digit finger bang that just about soaked me as I wiggled with pleasure on the other side of the screen.

Next we get to watch as Papì and Wil work together to dominate Chris.  There’s a little tit-torture, a lot of oral and even more strap-on play.  Watching these players wield strap-ons with such skill brought me pleasure both physical and cerebral.

Finally we’re treated to a scene of play-rape between Papì and Wil, complete with costumes, bondage and toys.  This was the most intense scene in the film, and it definitely made my eyes widen with something like fear.  But the pre-planning and aftercare, something not usually seen in porn, were amazing to watch.

I loved the aspects of safer sex built into their play.  Fingering with gloves?  Hot.  Fingering with black glovesSuper hot.  Using plenty of lube?  Oh baby, I love that.

They use one of my all-time favorite butt-toys, the gorgeous Njoy Pure Plug, and one of the most delicious vibrators in existence, the Wahl.  Those orgasms you’ll get to see in the scene with Chris?  Yep, that’s what the Wahl does.

TransEntities: The Nasty Love of Papì and Wil should be in your porn collection if you like watching hot, real sex between extraordinary partners.

TransEntities: The Nasty Love of Papi and Wil by Morty Diamond, director
Available at Babeland
2007, 55 minutes

Rubber Sex

by multiple authors, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel

reviewed by AlwaysArousedGirl on Wed 25 Jun 2008

So you’ve got a thing for bodies encased in slippery-tight material, do you?  Then I’m guessing that the stories in Rubber Sex will steam up your glasses and good.

Edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel, these nineteen stories feature everything from lust in latex to PVC perversion to vac-bed vixens.  Even if you’re not among the many who adore a little rubber in their sex, you’ll still find plenty of hot reads featuring players of all orientations and genders.

I really appreciate the high standards to which Rachel Kramer Bussel holds the authors included in her anthologies.  You’ll find precious little skim-worthy material here, although Jay Starre’s “Rubber-Party Virgin,” while focusing on supa-hot boy/boy rubber-short-clad sex, does leave something to be desired.  The main character’s attitude of wide-eyed naivety as he makes his way through his first sex party is perhaps meant to be charming, but instead it struck me as annoyingly unrealistic.

As has been the case in her other books, Bussel contributes one of the most compelling stories.  “Tight Squeeze” describes a dominant woman’s attiring of her much younger lover in a shiny, slick latex catsuit in front of an admiring throng.  It’s a simple idea, but this author is a master of drawing out the sensuality of the most simple situation.

Thomas Roche’s story of vac-bed fascination also merits a mention.  “Butterfly’s Kiss” is erotica noir, a dangerous sort of tale that combines lust with enough of a sense of imminent danger to keep the blood boiling on a couple different levels at once.

I’m a vanilla girl at heart, so I found it educational (and hot) to see the different ways this fetish material can be enjoyed.  Now I’m seeing rubbery erotic possibilities everywhere.

Rubber bands around the wrists, for example.  Was my old boss who came so attired to work each day giving herself pleasant reminders of a fetish as she absentmindedly twirled them?  If I run across a particularly perky cashier in the grocery store, could it be that he’s wearing a latex jock under his uniform?  Does my postal carrier deliver the mail with extra verve on the day after smoothing liquid latex over his wife’s naked vulva?

I can only hope so, and that after you read Rubber Sex you’ll be thinking the same things too.


For more information, check out the Rubber Sex website.

Rubber Sex by multiple authors, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel
Available at
200 pages, 8 x 5.4 x 0.6 inches