Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration

by Audacia Ray

reviewed by alwaysarousedgirl on Fri 29 Jun 2007


Naked on the Internet is an awesome book, and I’m not just saying that because of what’s on pages 116 and 279*.

Audacia Ray spent months interviewing dozens of women who have made use of the net for business, pleasure or both. She begins her book with some information on methodology; she asked for volunteers in many online (where else?) communities, then interviewed respondents via email, IM and the phone. From humble bloggers to professional porn web-mistresses, from internet daters to cam-girls, Ray covers the full range of how women have made good or not so good on the ‘net.

Ray devotes chapters in her book to various internet phenomena where women’s voices and needs are becoming more noticeable. She discusses the rise of sex-blogs and how these have given some women powerful yet anonymous voices; and online dating, where women are allowed more latitude to “shop” for the type of relationship they need at the moment. She reports on some particularly harrowing accounts of broken confidences, alliances gone awry and stalking which should give anyone forming close online relationships some degree of pause.

I found Audacia Ray’s discussion of the internet and sex-work to be especially interesting. This is a world that most of us will only see portrayed–unrealistically, of course–on television and the movies; as a former sex-worker and current executive editor of $pread Magazine, Ray can provide an honest look at how these workers use the internet both to screen prospective clients and punish misbehaving clients. I was fascinated to learn of the various ways sex-workers use the internet both to advertise their services and to keep themselves safe.

If you’ve been on the internet for any length of time, and especially if your travels take you to the sexier portions of the net, you might be tempted to believe that you know all of its intricacies, all of its little secrets.

But you probably don’t.

Whether you are new to thinking about using the internet for sex or such an seasoned pro that you can’t imagine typing with both hands at once anymore, you’ll find lots to learn from Audacia Ray’s book.

*I get small mentions on those pages.

Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration by Audacia Ray
Published by Seal Press
Available at
paper, 7.9" x 5.5" $15.95