abbreviation for “sadism and masochism”

sexual arousal from infliction pain or humilation on another person

sexual practices where an individual derives pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliation onto others or oneself

sexual intercourse that involves the use of some type of protection against disease and pregnancy, most often through the use of condoms or dental dams

word decided upon before play that the bottom can use at any time during a BDSM session to stop the action (Can also be a non-verbal signal for gagged play)

The frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex (coined by Dan Savage), see extended reference at www.spreadingsantorum.com.

slang for feces

intricate form of Japanese bondage that combines restraint and stimulation bondage. Often can also include assymetrical tying methods; practioners study bondage techniques extensively and consider the act of, the aesthetics of, and the sensations of being bound in these forms are all important parts of the fetish experience

Licking or sucking another person’s toes for sexual arousal (not in servitude)

Definition from Wikipedia: fan fiction, describing gay pairings between media characters, often in explicit detail, and very frequently outside the canon of the source. The name arises from the use of the slash character in phrases such as ‘Kirk/Spock’ to describe the stories. (’Kirk/Spock’ is widely thought to be the first type of slash fiction, first appearing in the 1970s in Star Trek fanzines.)

bottom/submissive; person who gives control over to a specific Dominant

kissing someone in order to transfer semen from mouth to mouth

kissing a man immediately after he ejaculates in your mouth, without leaking any of his semen

anal intercourse; often used in a derogatory manner

allowing your partner to fuck someone else but only while you are present

slang for an aphrodisiac substance

slang for “Wet and Messy Fetish” (aka WAM); arousal from either being covered or covering another’s body with food, mud, shaving cream, and any other messy items; some sploshers have a specific fetish for one type of food (ie. pudding or tomato sauce) while others simply like to play with whatever messy foods and substances are available… the messier the better!

a rod/bar that is attached to both ankles, forcing the legs apart

bondage equipment in the shape of an X. Bottoms are bound by each limb to the 4 “spokes” of the X; they are then either left for long periods of time or flogged… or both!

bondage equipment that models old-fashioned stockades; wrists and neck are uncomfortably locked between two wooden planks for long spells of time

bondage equipment that can take several forms; used to suspend a bottom above the floor (unsupported so the binds pull) for endurance, bondage, and pain play

name for a person who can take on both dominant and submissive roles, depending on their mood, the kink, and/or their partner