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AB, Adult Babies

a fetish for regression into an infant/toddler state through dress (including diapers), roleplaying, and being rendered helpless to a Mommy/Nanny; the formal title for this fetish is “paraphilic infantilsm”; it can manifest itself in many ways but revolves around the ideas of giving up control to Mommy, wearing diapers and other baby clothes, playing with other ABs, being stripped of responsibility, and sometimes, exhibitionism; ABs need a Mommy/Nanny to help take care of them, to feed them, clothe them, change their diapers and check for diaper rash, play with them, and to discipline them when necessary


sexual arousal caused by bathing or showers


sensation play that can range from playful to painful that uses rough, textured objects such as steel wool, sandpaper, and pumice stones to stroke, massage, or graze the skin


arousal from heights


a fetish for dressing as an adolescent

age play

any roleplay/fantasy that involves a change in age; the most common is one or more adults pretending to be a teenager or child but can also include aging fantasies.

algolagnia, algophilia

psychological and sexual arousal from the infliction of pain


a term for female ejaculation that has its roots in tantric sex practices

animal play, animalism

roleplaying that one (or more) person(s) are an animal during a fantasy; common manifestations of this fantasy include ponies and dogs; the play can include grooming, training, feeding, collaring/bridling, and, in the case of horses, riding


sexual arousal achieved by being choked/strangled/suffocated to the point of passing out

asymmetric bondage

the act of restraint that is uneven and asymmetrical, causing the bound person to be disoriented and off balance; this type of bondage can cause intense psychological reactions.

autoerotic asphyxia

self-strangulation or suffocation to bring on sexual excitement


a fetish for crossdressing


torturing oneself through pain for sexual gratification and release


a type of pain play that involves causing pain to the soles of the feet; whips, crops, paddles, fire, and sharp pins are common tools used to inflict the pain

beastiality, bestiality

any form of sexual interaction between humans and animals, including masturbation and actual intercourse


a fetish for sharp implements including cut glass, needles, knives, and pins

blood play

edge play fetish that includes drawing blood for sexual arousal; play with needles and knives is also included in this fetish term

body modification

piercing, branding, tattoos, body corsets, and other means of modifying the body


the act of restraining another person or oneself;

when a person is bound so they cannot move it is called “restraint bondage”; they can either be immobilized by binding limbs together or to a fixed object

when a person is bound with to have freedom of movement to cause the binds rub against sensitive areas; this is called “stimulation bondage”

another popular form of bondage is asymmetric, based on Japanese bondage; during this practice, restraints are done to cause a sense of unbalance

breath play, breath control

edge play that interferes with breathing via strangulation or smothering for sexual arousal


Japanese term that has migrated to English-speaking fetish circles referring to a circle of men jerking off onto a person in the middle


castration is any action, surgical, chemical or otherwise, that results in the removal/loss of use of the testes rendering him sterile; male-to-female transexuals sometimes undergo castration as part of their gender reassignment; there is also a fetish that fantasizes about and sometimes actually undergoes castration

CBT, C&B Torture, cock & ball torture

painful stimulation of a male’s balls and penis using binds, needles, clamps, burning balms, candles, and blunt force

corporal punishment

spanking used for punishment (rather than for the mere “pleasure” of the physical sensation); the punishments are often placed into a domestic setting, whether fantasized or based in reality


a cuckold is a married man with a sexually unfaithful wife; in BDSM, cuckolding is used for humiliation and sissification


sensation play involving the use of small glass or plastic cups which are placed over the skin and then evacuated to create a vacuum

edge play

any sexual play that carries serious risk of physical harm including breath control/asphyxiation, electrical play, bloodsports, and fire play; can also be applied to play that breaks a person’s previous boundaries


Many people who play with pain in an S/M context do it for only the physical sensation – an endorphin high caused by the body reacting to stimuli that they perceive as pleasurable instead of (or because of) pain.


sexual arousal from being watched in a public space while performing sexual acts

face sitting

slang for when a woman (most often a Mistress) smothers a man with her ass; also called “queening”

family play

fantasy exploration of sexual relations between family member; also known as incest fantasy


“fetish” can actually be applied to any affection for or fixation on a specific act, object, idea, or person; it needn’t be a sexual connotation; sexual fetishes are actions, objects, persons, or ideas that serve as triggers for sexual arousal


broad term for any type of whipping, spanking, caning, flogging, etc

foot fetish

someone who eroticizes feet. I’ve talked to people with any number of various preferences when it comes to how they like to view feet, from those who have a thing for a certain kind of shoe, to pedicure, to type of toes.

forced feminization

forcing a submissive man to take on the qualities of the female gender through dress, speech, actions, sexual practices, and even urination; this can be done through sheer command, blackmail, pain, or coersion; also known as sissification and, after training, can often end in “coming out” events for further humiliation in front of masculine men and other Dominant women


fetish for turning humans into furniture, through elaborate bondage, etc.

fountain of Venus

watersports play between women


the act of rubbing or humping against another person; often it is done while clothed in various costumes, from fetish wear to animal costumes

golden screw

watersports play when a man pisses inside a woman’s vagina while fucking her

golden shower

the act of urinating on someone else for either sexual arousal or to humiliate them


Another word for WAM (Wet and Messy) fetish, which involves people getting gunked up with mud, oil, creampie, you name it.


a fetish for worshipping women


roleplay during which adults dress and act like babies; this includes wearing diapers, drinking out bottles, talking in baby talk; this “fetish” often does not include any sexual element


sexual play between a human and a dog


fetish for the act of childbirth or pregnant women


the sexual desire to be inflicted with physical pain


bondage that complete immobilizes a person from head to toe; strips of fabric, leather, rope, and sometimes plastic wrap are used


arousal caused by amputation and amputees


edge play of drawing blood with a blade

piss play

fetish play that involves urine, either in mutual/playful or in BDSM scenes

pony play

roleplay during which a submissive pretends to be a pony; this includes wearing a saddle, bit, and bridle, being ridden, being brushed and groomed, wearing an attached tail, and only neighing instead of speaking

pony training

training a person to (1) act as a horse or (2) be obedient as a trained horse

Power Exchange, Total Power Exchange

describes the relationship between a Dominant and submissive; “Total Power Exchange” is used to describe long term relationships that retain the frames of D/s


the act of a Mistress sitting, bareassed or clothed, on her submissive’s face for extended periods of time (turning the slut’s face into a throne for the “Queen”); some Mistresses stay mindful of allowing the slave to breath easily while others (with the consent/acknowledgement of the slave) incorporate breath control in this play

sadism, sadist

sexual arousal from infliction pain or humilation on another person


sexual practices where an individual derives pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliation onto others or oneself


intricate form of Japanese bondage that combines restraint and stimulation bondage. Often can also include assymetrical tying methods; practioners study bondage techniques extensively and consider the act of, the aesthetics of, and the sensations of being bound in these forms are all important parts of the fetish experience


Licking or sucking another person’s toes for sexual arousal (not in servitude)


slang for “Wet and Messy Fetish” (aka WAM); arousal from either being covered or covering another’s body with food, mud, shaving cream, and any other messy items; some sploshers have a specific fetish for one type of food (ie. pudding or tomato sauce) while others simply like to play with whatever messy foods and substances are available… the messier the better!


a fetish for watching others, often without the subjects knowing; although voyeurism is often associated with watching sex acts, some voyeurs get off one watching mundane activities


acronym for “Wet and Messy”, which eroticizes women (or men) getting goopy – mudwrestling, pies in the face, whipped cream, any number of things.


fetish play involving urine; can either be used as a form of humiliation between a Dominant and their submissive (even allowing friends to use their submissive as a toilet) OR can be a mutual kink where both/multiple partners piss on each other


to lavish attention, honor, and adoration towards a Mistress or Master, often through words, tongue bathing, gifts, and acting as a human throne or footstool