Comments on: double lifelines

By: David

David — Sun, 01 Jul 2007 09:21:27 +0000

It sounds like you are in a place in your life where you are comfortable in your own skin. I have been reading and peeking at various versions of your blog since 1999 so I think I have a good idea how far you’ve come.

From that comfort you have the security to be who you are. Go ahead and be you. And enjoy!

By: jane

jane — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 05:34:37 +0000

ah… Rae, our experiences are quite similar then. It seems like the people that I think at first are shocked are the same ones who later pull me aside to tell me that one little something.

although at this point, I’m the only one I know with a maribou trimmed dildo vibe. *grin*

By: Rae

Rae — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 04:18:29 +0000

Because I don’t have a family to worry about, I’m able to be very selfish in who I do and who I don’t share the naughtier sides of my life with. Ironically, I’m not that secretive with people who I feel might judge me. Best to get it over and done with.

I’m much more secretive with people who I feel would see it as this reason to always make turn everything into sexual innuendo around me or that they think they’ll get something - either me or access to free porn or some other sordid something - out of being friends with a professional pervert. I’ve had a few people surprise me with their inability to deal with my choices but more so, I’ve had people surprise me with their acceptance and nonchalance about the whole thing. And then there’s the “peripheral friends” (those people who are friends of friends) who, upon finding out about my deviant side, find reasons to ask me to coffee alone so they can finally tell someone about their foot fetish, pink panties, desire for canings or…. their collection of marabou dildos. ;)

By: jane

jane — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 03:05:40 +0000

It’s an odd thing, the double-life feel. One of the things I’m the most at odds with is whether I’m doing it selfishly (fear of being judged) or altruistically (fear for my children being judged and/or making others uncomfortable which i don’t find so cool to do.)

I judge myself if it’s the former, but I’m ok with the latter - ethically that one works for me. The problem is I’ll never really know because I’ll always be a parent responsible for the happiness and well-being of my daughters. Perhaps if it was just me it’d be easier to suss out. :)

By: His Mija

His Mija — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 22:11:17 +0000

When i first started blogging about 2 years ago i felt like i was living a double life. Now i have kind of mixed my two worlds together, but there are times and places i’m still very much Vanilla. Specially at work when i’m in total control.

Great Post. Thanks
His Mija
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