She’s a teenager! Teenagers are supposed to be trying things out, discovering themselves – and others. Being force fed this whole monogamy line from such a young age puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on them to grow up far too fast. Speaking of… I also think that this mindset leads to a large percentage of teenage pregnancies. In my very unqualified opinion, all of the unwed teen mothers I know were in a “committed” relationship when they got pregnant. Today’s New York Times has a parallel article about schools now requiring 9th graders to choose “majors” that they have to stick to through high school. I’m all for encouraging specialization and empowering kids who have a sincere passion or even a keen interest in a subject to pursue it fully but come on! Majors?! In 9th grade?! Most colleges don’t require a major until sophomore year!

I think your thoughts on poly are really valid. I don’t have kids or pets or even a book club to be minding so when I’ve chosen to become engaged in a poly situation – or even just an intense scene or relationship – I am only committing myself. I’m choosing to spend my time exploring my naughty nature and this does not take away time from anyone requiring it. Your priorities change when family – and sexy racing boats – come into the picture and it’s important to note that priorities and proclivities are different. Just because you’re choosing to focus on cultivating your marriage, spending time with the girls, and exploring other interests doesn’t mean that your poly-desires have dried up. Of course, basking in the glow of your one healthy, happy – and don’t forget, naughty! – relationship probably quenches most of your poly-thirsts for now until you have the time to… uh… drink from more than one well.

(Sorry, once the drinking metaphor got started, it took on a life of it’s own!)