it’s all about romance, baby.
Sun Sep 23, 2007
I was just watching a great video clip of Violet Blue talking about her experience appearing on the Tyra Banks show. I love Violet Blue, she’s definitely one of the best voices when it comes to talking about the vast spectrum of sexuality. I am a little surprised that – well, that it surprised her to not have the experience promised by the show producers. The bit about the kinds of things in the contract was funny, if unsurprising. If there is one thing I’ve learned in the past 10 years, it’s that mainstream media is just unable to accurately talk about sex, and the (shocking? to them, I guess) revelation that women are a big part of the market for porn, sextoys and explicit writing. It’s not just romance novels, duh.
Someone from the Tyra Banks show contacted me a couple of years ago. I remember having the discussion about it with Elliott at the time, because my initial reaction (and what I ended up going with) was to stay far away. I absolutely do not trust shows like that. That said, I think it’s awesome that there are amazing women like Violet who will at least make an attempt to speak their piece, even if they ultimately don’t get very far.
What I don’t understand is why the mainstream media is so vested in perpetuating myths when it comes to women and sex. It’s just ridiculous, it’s like the one last gasp attempt at shaming women into not taking charge of their sex lives. Let’s tell them that if they don’t want romantic porn, or romance novels, or have fantasies like that, that there is somehow something “wrong” with them. Augh! Women account for about 50% of the people buying subscriptions to more than a few hardcore BDSM sites. I don’t know how many hardcore non-BDSM sites, for some reason I’ve never been able to get any kind of accurate data there. And, women are definitely prolific in writing non-romantic sex stories as well.
Anyhow… kudos to Violet Blue for trying, she’s a braver woman than I.
~Jane
September 23rd, 2007 at 11:12 pm
I raise my drink to Violet, she tried and maybe someone watching that crappy show will go to her blog and get some honest information. In the last five to ten years my exposure to the mainstream media has been reduced to a fraction of what it was. How much impact will they have in another five to ten years. I don’t expect the world to improve too much, after all there are people still fighting evolution. But With more people bypassing the MSM maybe will see an increase in those IQ scores. I’m going to follow Violets lead and become more active in my daily life and try to counter these idiots. ~michael
September 24th, 2007 at 5:32 pm
Looks like we had a similar reaction – http://www.seska4lovers.com/fresh0709.htm#070921.
September 25th, 2007 at 5:33 pm
oh, just read yours – almost identical. :) My former partner’s feelings about press were always “so long as they spell our name right”, but me being the face of the site, and thus the one doing the interviews, I never could bring myself to feel that way. I have done only two television appearances ever, both for cable. The one, for SexTV, was overwhelmingly positive. I believe it mostly broadcast in Canada. The other was for TechTV, and it wasn’t negative – just kind of boring.
There isn’t really any daytime talk show I can think of that I’d be trusting of having a good experience on, at least not on American television. British television is always broadcasting sex info shows, but I’ve never gotten to see any of them, and mostly when they write, it’s only to ask me who to write to, not to actually do it myself.