26 February 2010
Fri Feb 26, 2010
I actually have a day to myself. Seriously. In my family of 5, that is about unheard of, there is always someone here – but today it’s just me, and I’m blissful. Elliott is off on a skiing weekend in Canada, daughters are all out busy with school or work. It’s so rare that I almost don’t know what to do with myself. Of course I still have the doggies, but that doesn’t count, they are low maintenance.
In my blog wandering this morning, I came upon Bill Maher’s Op-Ed in the Huffington Post, “Stop Saying ‘Sex Addict’ Like it’s a Bad Thing.”
I tend to agree with him. I attempted to watch the Dr. Drew “Celebrity Sex Rehab”, but all I found myself thinking as I watched was that it was just people with some serious difficulties in relating to other people. I didn’t see anything that made me believe “sex addict”. Now can you actually devote too much time to sex, to the point that it becomes problematic? Well – I suppose so, but people also get obsessive about all kinds of activities, from scuba diving to playing the piano, and since those things are alright with everyone else it’s not called “addiction”.
I basically think the point is to try to live a balanced life, because that’s usually what feels good for the long haul, keeps your relationships healthy, and so on.
Anyhow, off to get some things done while I have precious alone time….
happy weekend!
~Janie
February 26th, 2010 at 3:20 pm
Surely you’d have to admit the fine examples the media classify as “sex addicts” do bear scrutiny at least for their nefarious motives or abusive antics captured live on national television for all to see. Nasty Charlie Sheen the wife beater …int he a peach? or that fine hunny that nailed Tiger Woods & David Boranz for fun & profit, or perhaps our famous ex pres blowjob Billy Clinton that used the power of the white house to get laid? Like Tiger Woods using the power of his celebrity to get a little trim on the side,over & over & over till it became an issue? There has to be a difference between sex for fun at home and abuse of power in that regard don’t you think? Is it an addiction or media hype that drives this issue, or the disdain well earned by stupid pet trick antics they get caught up in.
February 26th, 2010 at 3:28 pm
I don’t know that I do think they bear any greater scrutiny than the rest of us. Sure, if someone in a position of power over someone else is using that for non-consensual activity that is one thing, and it’s criminal. Again, with Sheen, beating someone is a crime. I don’t put consensual activity in the same category, and I don’t think “cheating” is excused by way of “sex addiction”.
February 26th, 2010 at 3:42 pm
Oh don’t get me wrong I’m in full agreement you can’t use the term” sex addict” as an excuse, nor should the term apply to anyone that isn’t confined to a mental ward for being a serial masturbater lol. I would have loved to been in that back seat of woods truck when she bitch-slapped the wanker for cheating, pay-per-view event to be sure.