Fri Jul 15, 2011
Sometimes I think the worst thing that can happen to a relationship is to work together. Playing together is great, working together not so much. Especially when you’re self-employed.
A few years ago, Elliott had an awesome office manager/personal assistant, Fifi. (I am not making up the name – she went by Fifi, although she was as far from the stereotype that brought to mind as it was possible to be.) She somehow managed to get everything under control, and it certainly seemed that she brought the whole business back from the brink of disorganized collapse. Then she moved to Hawaii.
For the first year after she left, Elliott sort of mourned her going. He also secretly hoped that she’d have a change of heart and move back. They still keep in touch, and she still would work for him again if she ended up in this part of the country. Finally after it became apparent that 1. she was not coming back and 2. Elliott was never going to get around to finding a new Fifi, I started to fill in. At first it was just doing a bit of bookkeeping to keep his head above water. Then it became that and phone calls. Over time it became a full time job.
Earlier this year, Elliott’s company bought a couple of other small companies. All of a sudden I was phone support and bookkeeping for 3 separate businesses (at least until we can merge them all into one.) All of a sudden it was even MORE than a full time job. It was then that things started to deteriorate. No creative time. No housework time. A bit of recreational time, but not as much. And with way too much stress, we started sniping at each other way too much.
Anyhow, I am rambling on about it, so long story short: Elliott hired a new Fifi today! (Ok, so her name isn’t Fifi, what would be the odds?) She’s going to start in the next couple of weeks, and I am going to phase myself back out of his business and into my own again, and I couldn’t be happier. No more phone calls, which I detest. No more working together, except in the bigger picture ways. Now we can do what we did for the first half of our relationship, which is each do our own thing, while being supportive of the other. Yay!
Expect to see more of me around here… :)