Comments on: pity the abusers? http://janesguide.com/wpmu/janesays/2012/04/16/pity-the-abusers/ Just another Janesguide.com weblog Tue, 7 May 2013 08:43:47 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: pity 2012 http://janesguide.com/wpmu/janesays/2012/04/16/pity-the-abusers/comment-page-1/#comment-3821 pity 2012 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 00:32:18 +0000 http://janesguide.com/wpmu/janesays/?p=611#comment-3821 i nie ma lipy i nie ma lipy

]]> By: Vamp http://janesguide.com/wpmu/janesays/2012/04/16/pity-the-abusers/comment-page-1/#comment-3400 Vamp Wed, 18 Apr 2012 03:03:26 +0000 http://janesguide.com/wpmu/janesays/?p=611#comment-3400 "We need to quit apologizing for the abusers and start sticking up for the abused." I second that one! You know, one of the things that bugged me is that people kept talking about abusers making "mistakes". I don't believe that most abuse situations involve mistakes. I think they involve active choices. Quite a few of the most dangerous folks I've run into "in the scene" absolutely know that they are predatory and want to continue doing what they are doing. There is no "mistake" occurring. That is just a word that is used to excuse toxic and dangerous behavior. “We need to quit apologizing for the abusers and start sticking up for the abused.”

I second that one!

You know, one of the things that bugged me is that people kept talking about abusers making “mistakes”. I don’t believe that most abuse situations involve mistakes. I think they involve active choices. Quite a few of the most dangerous folks I’ve run into “in the scene” absolutely know that they are predatory and want to continue doing what they are doing. There is no “mistake” occurring. That is just a word that is used to excuse toxic and dangerous behavior.

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