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pity the abusers?

I wanted to take a moment while I’m thinking about it to blog about what I thought was kind of an astounding thing that happened during my panel at Momentum. First, here is how the panel was billed, direct from the Momentum website:
Being the Change you Want to See: Helping Stem the Tide of Silence [...]

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more on bdsm and abuse

I have a news flash for the BDSM community, when it comes to abusive relationships: we’re not that unique. Abusive relationships can and do happen, I would guess at about the same frequency in the bdsm community as within the rest of the population. I would also say that abusive relationships have the same markers, [...]

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bdsm negotiation and consent

I’ve seen quite a bit lately in discussion forums, blogs and the like about abuse within the bdsm community. That is an entire issue in and of itself, and one that I’m noodling on how to write about. I know a I’ve alluded to the fact that I experienced abuse in a relationship. It was, [...]

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